Our wedding theme Recognize Me emerged from several conversations about what our relationship means to us, as well as reflections on the events and stages of our friendship that led to our engagement and inevitably to our special wedding day. “A young man meets a girl. The whole world looks different when he sees her. Her voice reminds him of something he has been trying to remember all his life …”— C.S. Lewis “Meditation in a Toolshed” in First and Second Things When we were getting to know one another, we continued to sense déjà vu. We connected like long-lost friends who had known each other our entire lives and were picking up where we had left off. Neither of us had ever experienced anything like this. It was strange, because we had just met, but the sense of familiarity was profound. It was similar to asking each other, “Don’t you recognize me?” Of course, the answer was yes. We not only recognized one another as husband and wife. We first and foremost recognized Jesus in each other. As single people, God brought us so far on our journey toward holiness. But He knew that we would need each other to continue the rest of the way. In our vocation of marriage, we are called to imitate Jesus to one another by unconditionally loving each other the way He loves His Church. We strive to put aside our own agendas for the sake and wellbeing of the other person. When we do this, we experience and recognize more fully Christ’s intimate presence in our lives through one another. Now none of the disciples dared ask him, “Who are you?” They knew it was the Lord.— John 21:12These conversations and reflections led us to pick the theme of Recognize Me for our wedding. It helped us to remain focused on what we really were doing by getting married … Once we knew that Recognize Me was going to be the theme of our wedding, we decided to also include a visual element that symbolized our relationship with each other and God. Since one of Greg’s interests is logo design, he created a symbol that incorporates the essence of our wedding, as well as visually expresses Recognize Me. As Christians, we not only are called to recognize the cross; we are called to embrace it. And the grace that is administered during the Sacraments enables us to humbly do this. In the crucifix design, the cross is in the foreground, which represents Jesus’ central position in our lives. Without Him as our Center, we would not be where we are today, and we can never forget that. Our silhouettes are in Jesus’ background, because He leads us in our marriage and in all of life’s joys and trials. The crucifix design also symbolizes the uniting of Sarah, Greg and Jesus in the Sacrament of Marriage. The design was on our invitations and other wedding day materials, but more importantly it remains with us everyday, as it is debossed on Greg’s wedding band and is worn as a pendant by me.
Since I’m in a bit of a nostalgic mood after celebrating my eighth wedding anniversary yesterday, I thought I’d share a bit of history about our wedding day and the planning that led up to it.
When my husband and I were planning our wedding, we decided to have a theme. It wasn’t really about making sure everything at the wedding and reception coordinated. It was more so that we could keep focused on what was truly important: receiving the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony and entering into our vocation together.
Most of what follows was taken from our wedding program. It was fun to read again after so many years =)