My oldest daughter will receive her First Holy Communion in about two months. How exciting!
As much as her preparations are underway, at school and at home, the actual “event” has not been on my radar yet. But, thanks to a couple friends, I am starting to slowly think about the actual day and all that it entails.
And I’ve realized that I need to start planning now. With six children and a home to maintain, I have to start things in advance, if I want to avoid anxiety.
So, now my mind is running in many directions, and I have so many decisions to make. And I need to try to do it without it completely consuming me, for my sake as well as for the other dear people who live under the same roof as me.
So, for all of you experienced with this very momentous occasion, I have a few questions for you, if you don’t mind taking a minute to answer them for me.
1. Finding a balance. I think our culture has gotten in the bad habit of making everything into a party. Or should I say, has gotten in the bad habit of commercializing everything, even the sacred. Just look at Christmas …
So, while First Holy Communion is indeed a very, very special (and sacred) moment in my daughter’s life, how do I help keep it that way?
2. The dress. I have only done a little shopping around. But I already have discovered that First Holy Communion dresses are expensive. I noticed one store has them for less, but many of them are sleeveless, and I do not think a First Holy Communion dress should be sleeveless. Is it just me, or does this thought make sense? So, should I keep looking for a less-expensive option, or should I have the mindset of “This is such an important day. It is OK if her dress is expensive”?
3. The dress continued. My oldest girl has three younger sisters. They don’t all need their own First Holy Communion dress, do they? Or can I shop for one thinking that at least one or two will be able to wear it, too? (They are different builds, so I know they won’t all fit into the same dress when their time comes.) Or is that not fair to the younger ones? What would you do, if you had four daughters close in age?
4. Celebrating afterward. If we are to have a party afterward, how do I keep the actual receiving of the Sacrament more special than the party afterward? How do I handle the food, the cake, gifts? What is the right amount to really show the significance of such a special moment in her life, and what is just over-the-top too much? And is there a way to share our viewpoint with other family members?
5. Any other advice. I’ll gladly take. Any tips. Any ideas you did with your children that were particularly special for them. I would love to hear about them. Especially things that really kept the entire day holy.
I can’t wait to hear from you! Thanks for helping me out.